Don’t Give a Person a Pat On the Back More than He Deserves

I know of someone who has serious a problem on his confidence and he specifically said he needs a pat on the back often to assure that he’s doing the right thing.

Do you need to give the person a pat on the back more than he deserves to boost his confidence? No, a pat on the back is only given if the person has done more of what is expected or have gone through a difficult situation and succeeded and not just for the sake of building his confidence level. Most likely he isn’t the only member of the team and special treatment is not necessary. The person has to know this but if he has abnormal level of insecurities I suggest you refer him to a counselor more qualified to tackle this issue.